Hello! 20 year marriage teetering... (part VI)

[OneDay]

That is really amazing of you! I have a friend who divorced her abusive H many years ago and he still goes out of his way to make her life as miserable as possible. If she were in the hospital he would not only keep the kids away, but would tell her she was getting just what she deserved in whatever ailment put her there. There are a lot of people like that out there.

>>> It amazes me how DB'ing people are just the opposite- they are warm, caring, passionate people and it is astonishing to me that their spouses can't see it. <<<

Why is that the spouses can't or won't see it? Is it just me or does anyone else wonder if "we" the DB'ers are going about it wrong. Do you ever think we are just giving in and our WAS's are saying this has been the easiest Divorce ever, My H or W didn't even put up a fight, I guess they knew it was for the best too.

Do you think they want us to Man or Women up and be strong and take control of the situation?

Didn't mean to hijack, but sometimes I feel like Im going about this all wrong and feel like Im being walked on.