Magic, I want to go back to a posting of yesterday and I'm copying your response to me because it needs additional clarification. Please go to the last line of your paragraph below.
"Job ~ as above... Of course I have read those boards. I have thrived in them. I just wanted support. I am not always looking for 'answers'. Alot of the time I am venting and just want someone to agree with me. I have done all kinds of re-reading others & my threads. When I say "I don't know how to be around him, especially now due to new bomb"... what I am really saying is "has anyone dealt with this? How did you deal? What was a good/bad thing you did and would/wouldn't do again"...again, just wanting support. I know my reactions, my responses are mine. I feel I have taken control of myself over this last year. I still spin at times, BUT the length of time is WAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY shorter now. Also, I have been satisfied with the advice...just missing the support."
My question to you is what is your definition of support? The reason that I am asking is because you have indicated that you are getting advice but no support and I want to clear that area up w/you.
According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, the definition for support (transitive verb) is as follows: to agree with or approve of (someone or something; to show that you approve of (someone or something) by doing something; and/or : to give help or assistance to (someone or something).
Magic, you have been getting support from not only the posters in the Newcomers Forum, but the MLC Forum since you began posting. Providing advice, coming here and periodically repeating ourselves and posting even when we are tempted to walk away is called support. Advice giving is support, arguing w/you is support, coming here and trying to help you get on the right path by pointing out that you are mind reading, over analyzing, and yes, even seeking that magic potion that doesn't exist is support. We've tried to encourage you to get yourself set up financially and that's support. Posters have validated some of your positives and yet, I don't think you realize it's support.
Each and every Forum on this Board provides advice and support to the people who post. We may not always agree w/what we post to each other...but it's support and the posters know that if they come here someone is going to respond to their postings. The advice and support may not always be what the poster wants to hear, but that's their choice as to whether to post a response back or try to do what we suggest or ignore the posting. It's the posters responsibility to "weed out" what doesn't apply to them.
Advice and support go hand in hand.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
