Right. So now you have to wait until SHE catches up.
It is going to take a while, especially with OM in picture. As long as he is around, the only thing you can do is work on you, be your best self, at all times. Back off, don't push, pressure or try to "sell" the new you. That tells her that YOU are not listening. That she isn't heard.
And subconsciously, she says, "He hasn't changed. He's still thinking of his needs and wants first, pressuring me. I'm not ready, I am not sure. But there's no way I'm going back to him, or feel positive about him as long as he is this way."
And I firmly believe our spouses know us very, very well, and can tell when we are "trying", when we are watching them for signs, when we get antsy, etc. That why these changes we make have to be for US, and real, M or no M. They can tell.
And your W has told you this...she sees, but doesn't believe, YET.
Its good that she is noticing, and communicating that to you. Probably means she isn't "done" done.
So while she catches up, what kind of man do you want to be? Who do you want to be? Just for you...not W or married to W. You have some time to kill, right? Best get using it while you can.
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
