I didn't want to come off sounding like a controlling person, this I am not by no means. What I meant by this was I want to start saving our M. I know I still have things to learn (don't we all, life is a continual learning process) but I feel that I have made great strides & want to move forward with the M. That is all I meant by this.
I know my W is also working on things, she told me this both verbally & via text when we were dealing with the middle child missing me.
What W wants now is someone to place here 1st & take care of her, which is what OM is doing, heck they are both placing eachother 1st & the kids are suffering (my D told me that mom doesn't spend as much time with them when OM is in town). These are the things I wasn't showing during the last few months of the M when times were rough. I know that everyone needs to feel loved & cared for.
