I can relate to your S going through problems, my S11 continues to have struggles with this as well. He tells me often that he hopes mom will still come home. He also expresses a lot of anger about OM being around so much. I just validate as best I can. I talked to W about his struggles and suggested IC for him (she has insurance for the kids since she works for an insurance company) and she said she'd look into it. I need to follow up on that as it's been a while.
Originally Posted By: Crimson
Strangely enough, the other day she just texted me something really funny out of the blue. I responded and she laughed and said she was glad I thought it was funny because sometimes other people don't get her sense of humor. It was a minor thing, but it felt nice to hear from her about something that wasn't about S or something.
The reconciliations that I know of that happened after long term S or even D started out this way, with friendly interactions. Joking and stuff. After BD the WAS and LBS are at such odds over everything that it's almost impossible to have a friendly, laid-back, pressure-free convo. So when you get to the point where that can happen again it reminds the WAS of why they were attracted to the LBS in the first place. I'm not saying it means reconcilation is imminent, one of my buddies was chatty with his W for a year before it went any further. But regardless, it's a good step.
