This ^^^^^ is what I am understanding finally & now Ken, and trying to do now.... Again, I do not want to "control" the outcome. I need to know the truth of the outcome either way... not because I was steering it. I get it now!
Although, H is being very responsive since Monday night. He texted 2 more times last night (still about work...but unimportant stuff, just to touch base), it even seems like he is trying to do things to please me, to not get into a disagreement with. Saying things like "ok, you decide & however you want to deal with it" in a light calm voice. Not regimented & decisive firm, like I am used to him being.... its almost like he is walking on eggshells for me now.
Wondering if I should comment why he is being so nice/responsive/easy... or would that spook him away? I think I will just enjoy the niceness.
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
