maybe a bit off the edge?

[labug]

I get the rudeness concern and if you were in a friendship with this person and on strong, equal footing, I would never say ignore someone.

That's not where you are right now. Boundaries are to protect you, boundaries are necessary for healthy Rs. It seems from what has happened in the past that she gives you an inch and you take a mile. And then you're hurt. We all do that, we see a a little light and we want to drive a Mack truck through it. Or there's the old don't scare the squirrel analogy.

How other people react to our boundaries is all on them. For the most part, people never react positively to boundaries.

As long as you're not coming from a rude or angry or punishing place you have right and responsibility to protect yourself.

It's difficult but necessary.