Yes, your W is being kind of ridiculous, saying this and that should change, when she's the one who left and has nothing to do with any of it.
But . . . I would take this as a good sign. She is showing interest in your kids and what is happening at home.
Perhaps she is just not very good at communicating that in a more direct way. Imagine how hard it would be to acknowledge that you've deserted your kids for the past few months.
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