I feel my marriage is done

[indigo1]

I agree with above post. If you pressure her with a question like that right now I can almost guarantee the answer you are gonna get. Your W is gonna take time to sort things out and figure out what she wants. I made the mistake of pushing my W while we were separated and not once did it get the desired result.

On the other hand, if you have decided YOU are done maybe proceed with him or me approach.