Thanks Melissa I love your replies ,,,and they made me think and you know what. I am not the wife from hell.. He has issues not me.. he decides now that a decision made 10 years ago was unfair, that me complaining about a move that was only negative for me and positive for hi m was unfair that was all it took. Even though I was prepared to move..somehow that complaining for 3 months equates to no trust left in him for me... then he decides to start his sad little affair with a numbnut from his company then decides to tell me the marriage was over before the affair.. oops didn't I know I need help to move and get an apartment, I need help with the costs and the language.. he will like to help.. makes him feel like he is not a total slimeball which is good.I will let him help. Then he can do as he likes. What I think I will enjoy is moving into his new suburb... so he will be able to see how well I manage without him.
I do have the option of totally messing with his head... making him feel very insecure and the possible subject of lot of gossip... have to decide how high I want my moral ground to be.
I need to add I was given a new job today....a great job...
I also realised that I was not respecting myself by taking so much blame on me...If he is not smart enough to know himself and speak up when he feels pressured or unappreciated why should I be even thinking I should have been doing that for him. If the complaint is I am too controlling then why expect me to monitor and controlled everything so he always feels good about himself. Can't have it both ways..
Actually exciting to think I can make some choices for me without thinking about his ego...
