WH, Wish I could have more input of your choice of providers but here in Canada we are more regulated and less competition on these services so pricing is a joke. Just wish I could get all that for $100 here. But a thought too may be is with whatever Internet you get find some free downloads of shows and movies etc and hook computer (notebook if you have) up to tv(s) if you can. Maybe kindly ask one of your IT guys at work about this stuff...they typically are so good to help in dilemna's. one of our guys knew I was divorcing and lost in this stuff and offered help. Love him...he was so good and helped a lot. I bought him a couple lunches and a gift card for thanks. What also I will say is GM is soooooo right! You are doing amazing and you can and will do this. My exW used to make fun of me and laugh I would not handle things on my own. Well, seems I am doing better than she is. Not gloating competitively, but realized the things I was not as familiar with, I picked up. It gets easier kiddo. 7 months on my own now and it has come together. YOU will do this! Look how much you have done already. We are all proud of you, so be proud of yourself. Plus, remember you have inspired me and many others. Keep going WH. You are awesome.
M17 yrs. me49 xW47 d15 d11
BD1-Jul/11(Affair found out) Therapy 9 months (tried 2) BD2- May/12(sep) Court Jul/13 - I got 50/50 Sold home - Aug/13 Court #2 - Dec/13 Court#3 - Apr/14 ... She lost again We settled.
Like I said I think I found a w/d. $400 for the set. Pretty nice and big which I need with two kids in tow. They dont deliver to my area so I need to pick them up and install so now to find friendly people to give me a hand. Maybe the landlord would help me install it.
In other news our placement agreement has been signed by the judge and is now a done deal. I got my 8/6!!! But now it's up in the air as to when it will go into effect. My attorney and I want asap but that means OW can be in our house and around the kids, I think. But I really don't care at this point. I got the placement I was willing to settle for. I still want them more but it took two years to get to this point. I'm just going to sit back and see how much H really takes care of these kids without me around. I will see how much he ends up calling me. Which brings me to my next point.
I'm appliance shopping with my friend. We talk to the kind sales lady and my friend and I leave and decide to get a bite to eat. We head down the road to the local IHOP. We sit down to order and who should call? H! WTF! So I don't answer thinking if it is really an emergency he will leave a message. No message. He texts me. Can you pick up milk on your way home? WTF! My friend and I laugh and she says does he realize you are moving out in two days and you won't be picking up milk for him after that? I just laugh. 30 minutes later another text. Did you get my last text? WTH!!! So I wait about 15 minutes and text back that I was having dinner with my friend and would not be able to get milk. Yeesh!!! No reply after that.
After I left IHOP I drove to my place and unloaded more stuff. The landlord installed a new water Heater and water softener. Nice! I saw the carpet still hadn't been stretched in the master bedroom so I decided to call him. He said go ahead and move stuff in the master bedroom on friday. It isn't the end of the world. It looks okay. The guy he has been trying to call to do it has not responded.
There is a new stove in the place. Nice flat stove top! I prefer black appliances, but I'm not in a financial state to be picky. Plenty of time for that down the road.
I decided right now I am not making any major decisions regarding Internet. I will ask the people upstairs if we can go halfsies on the wifi until I decide what I want to do. In the meantime I will try to get informed on Internet tv so I can make educated decisions.
Been an emotional day. I'm sure there will be more.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
Btw as more of my stuff is leaving this house that "funk" is becoming more and more pronounced. I don't know what it is but it is wafting from H's room. I can't explain it. I am not making it up! It's sickenly sweet. Kinda mildewy but yet not. It is disgusting.
All the air fresheners in the world do not help!!!
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
The funk? Did you leave some dead fish in the house or something?
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In other news our placement agreement has been signed by the judge and is now a done deal. I got my 8/6!!! But now it's up in the air as to when it will go into effect. My attorney and I want asap but that means OW can be in our house and around the kids, I think. But I really don't care at this point. I got the placement I was willing to settle for. I still want them more but it took two years to get to this point. I'm just going to sit back and see how much H really takes care of these kids without me around. I will see how much he ends up calling me. Which brings me to my next point.
Um, 8/6? Can you go over that again? It's been a while and lot of posts since the placement came up...
In any event, I still maintain he'll use excuses to not pick up the kids. If not for you being you, you would almost feel like the babysitter in the coming months. He'll use excuses like he has to sell the house and has to renovate. Or that he needs to sell the house and can't have the kids there because it has to be kept pristine; they won't feel at home if they can't mess it up. Or he has to work late and can't get to his OW's and pick up the kids at the same time. Or he has to stop and get milk, can you just keep them for tonight?
It'll happen. The arrangement is the minimum they will be with you, but I would guess they'll be there much much more over the next 12 months. Holidays and show times excluded
AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
8/6 means in a 14 day period, I get them 8 overnights, H gets them 6. It isn't too much different than 50/50, but it puts me as the primary and majority parent which is what I wanted.
I have no idea what the heck that smell is. I think it might be mildew. When I was in the basement gathering stuff I noticed a musty smell. Our house was finished in 2006. It shouldn't have moisture issues, but I am thinking it does. The smell is extra strong in H's room, but I have noticed it on the kids and now on me! Yikes! I think it has a life of its own!~
AJ I hope you are right in your prediction. Not that I want H to be a "deadbeat dad" or have nothing to do with his kids, but I want as much time with the kids as possible. And H knows this and he will use it to his advantage until he thinks that he is giving me "too much" and then he will back off.
So last night H threatened to take the offer off the table and hash it out in court. Now he sends me an email saying we need to sit down and have a discussion. Hmmm...something or someone dissuaded him from going to the courts about this. Maybe he knows the courts will offer me something better than what he is willing to offer. Who knows? One more day and I am out of the house. It's bittersweet. Kind of sad. If I think about it too much I will cry.
Keep me in your thoughts. I think H is losing it even more if that's possible.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
WH, He's going to continue trying to get you to change your mind and help him. I think it's really starting to hit him in his wallet as to what his actions have created. He can threaten all he wants, but I don't think it will get any better for him.
The count down is on and just think...two more days and you'll be living in your own home and will not need to deal w/his calls for milk pick up, etc. You will be the one calling the shots under your roof and not have to walk around on egg shells wondering what he's doing or going to say next. Life will be far better for you and the children. Just a few more days...hang on the best way you can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks, Job. H has emailed incessantly asking me if the lawyer has gotten back to me. He will not lay off! I am trying to keep the peace until I get out but I don't know how much more I can take of this crazy man! I am starting to think the attorney is blowing him off, but I have questions, too, so I don't know what to do right now to get him off my back!
It feels like he is starting to harass me. But then again, I do hold the power because without me he is at the mercy of the court.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
WH, Give him one simple answer...no, the lawyer has not gotten back to you. That's all you have to tell him. If he continues his harassment, tell him to contact the lawyer directly if he wants any more answers, but that you will direct your lawyer to bill your h for that call. LOL!
He's only going to get worse for the next few days because he's in a state of panic. Try to spend some time over at your new place and you know what...your phone is busy...let it go to voice mail and then you can listen to your calls and determine if they are urgent or not. Nothing says you have to respond back asap...let him sweat just a little bit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
"H, the legal process is on its own timeline and it is out of my hands. Please do not contact me on any legal matters. Please have your lawyer contact my lawyer. My main focus right now is getting my stuff moved. Thank you. WH"
He is sweating all right. He has emailed me three times today. Now he has emailed the GAL who is DONE with this business now that the PMSA has been signed into an order by the judge. H is seriously freaking out right now.
I am kind of hoping his head explodes. I should be so lucky.
WH
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
