Books....well, books and me don't get along good...haha
I have always been a horrible reader. I read slowly, and my comprehension isn't the greatest. I really have to make an effort to read a book from cover to cover and be able to remember/understand it.
I probably should seek out another IC. I was somewhat unhappy with my last one. Granted, she did help me see a few of my flaws, but overall I felt the experience was only a little beneficial for my growth. In retrospect, that counselor probably wasn't a good match for me. I got much more from speaking with my pastor. I understand what you are saying about a pastor being more of a support base to make the WAS seem wrong. However, this counselor is not at all like that. He is very solution based and is well known in this area for his work with helping troubled marriages. He is truly a great guy, and I gained a lot from him.
