I may have done too much

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Re: (NA) Re: I may have done too much D2ndday #2426848 01/30/14 02:31 AM
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25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	Originally Posted By: D2ndday I have thought about it. Right now, I am not sure since I am concerned with my finances. I mean I don't know if she is going to just take off, and leave me to pay the bills. Things are tight, and my instinct is telling me to save every dime. But, I do want to save my marriage. I just have to think about it. going to see my counselor tomorrow. Hoping for some clarity and guidance. I did show my mom the rules, and explained that for now, it would be best if she was there for support, but to let me find a way through. We will see. W said she would be home at 3, it is 5, but I am not calling or texting, will just entertain myself and fight the urge. Okay first, the "rules" are something a poster here assembled, based on MWD's books. They are not infallible and if you read them carefully you can see that some of them conflict. No one size fits all. Don't cling to them b/c our problems getting our marriages here, are more complex than the guidelines, which only GUIDE us, can do. The real work is done by digging deep. The real journey in life is an inward one. Secondly, the cost of the DB coaching is nothing compared to the lost wages of missing work, getting a divorce, or feeling sick all the time. Buy a package of 3 and AND KNOW IT'S NOT A WASTE...at the very least you will not continue to do the opposite of what you need to do (180s!! GAL!! What of THOSE are you doing??) and at best, you'll find yourself, and her, in this morass. You'll get some tools and learn to leave the past in the past, and go "from this day forward" like the vows tell us to, and save your m. You are hedging your bets (Figuring out that saving now means more b/c you probably can't win anyhow)...& that is a losing approach to life, and you cannot save a marriage like that. Spend the money NOW and get a DB coach and no, don't tell your w. And you have read the books, YES?? B/C if you have not, do that first. THEN get a coach and do this all, this week. Stop pushing your w out of your life... more later... M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

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I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/21/14 05:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 05:11 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	KarenR	01/22/14 06:32 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 10:15 PM
Re: (NA) Re: I may have done too much	25yearsmlc	01/30/14 02:31 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/24/14 07:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/25/14 05:37 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 04:20 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/29/14 06:52 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	01/29/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:45 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/29/14 05:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 11:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 12:18 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/30/14 01:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 03:58 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/02/14 08:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 04:56 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/03/14 08:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/04/14 05:08 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/05/14 01:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 03:29 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 09:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/08/14 06:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lifes Twists	02/08/14 03:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/16/14 04:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/16/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 11:29 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/18/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 07:44 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 03:22 AM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 05:50 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 06:53 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 04:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/20/14 06:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/20/14 08:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 04:45 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/21/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 05:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/22/14 04:17 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/22/14 06:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/22/14 08:51 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/22/14 10:21 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/23/14 12:09 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:24 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	trying very hard	02/23/14 01:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 04:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 03:00 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/24/14 02:25 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/24/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/26/14 04:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/26/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/28/14 03:43 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/01/14 01:41 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/01/14 03:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/01/14 10:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lostinpain	03/02/14 01:25 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/02/14 01:48 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/02/14 04:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/05/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/08/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/10/14 02:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	unbidden	03/10/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/10/14 02:43 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/14/14 03:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/14/14 06:11 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/15/14 03:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/15/14 03:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/16/14 09:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/17/14 03:58 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/17/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Wonka	03/18/14 02:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 08:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/19/14 03:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 12:27 AM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/21/14 01:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/21/14 03:10 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 04:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/22/14 03:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/22/14 05:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Duds3	03/22/14 09:03 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/24/14 08:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 04:05 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:23 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 03:54 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 04:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/26/14 05:01 AM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/25/14 04:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	InLikeFlynn	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/31/14 07:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/01/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:41 PM
Re: I may have done too much	knittedscarff	02/03/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 07:12 PM

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