SP, hang in there, we're all pulling for you 25's truth darts can really pierce sometimes, even when I read her posts in other threads I can't help but feel like a couple of them hit a target on me too I need 25's gut-checks now and then even when they're not directed at me, because I do fall into the trap of laying blame for everything on my W as if I had no part in it. It's because she's in menopause, it's because she's on A/D's, it's because she's just gone batpoop crazy. Those sound a lot more appetizing then saying it's because I did something wrong in the M. But I did, and I have to own that. I can't own what she did wrong in the M, so there's no use focusing on that. Because this journey isn't about her, it's about ME. How can I be better? How can I learn from the mistakes I've made? How can I move forward? The questions we ask and the blame we lay has to be "I" focused and not include "she" or "her" or, even worse, "but". Not because our spouses didn't do anything wrong, of course they did. But what they did wrong is for THEM to own. Focusing on what they did wrong just keeps us from placing the focus where we need to- on ourselves.
AS, what are you, some freak genius author who read my mind?
Thanks for putting it into words some may find easier to read than mine.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
25's truth darts can really pierce sometimes, even when I read her posts in other threads I can't help but feel like a couple of them hit a target on me too 