Things sound good, and yeah, sounds like she isn't ready to go there quite yet in any big chunks. My W has implied the same, in round about words, and definitely in actions...take it slowly.
You dropped some truth darts and seeds, now just water them for awhile by keeping up the positive actions and interactions, building positive memory terrain for when she is ready to go "there", imo.
She is probably processing what you said, and trying to see how it fits with her remembered (or not, my W doesn't remember sooo much! And she is like your W, normally very detailed memory of these sort of things) reality.
I would keep in mind that, YES, her time in MLC is a very different and distorted reality, but slowly things will be remembered more correctly...something I told to another person here, that it's like going out and partying way too much, doing crazy stuff and not remembering due to blackouts...people tell you what you did and you are floored, embarrassed, etc. And you don't remember at first, but overtime the brain reconnects the memory neurons and you start to remember...well that's how it appears to be playing out in my sitch.
And when those memories are put back together correctly for her? THAT is when you will need to be the best, kindest, most compassionate, forgiving man you can be...
The post "Musings from AmyC" gives great insight into that, I am seeing some of that in my sitch.
Man, I would love to hear those words, good for you!!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
