Is this email nothing more than a temp check to see if I am still around for her?
IMHO it is. She's checking to see what kind of mood you are in after she emailed wanting to know if you'd want a D if she continued the A.
It is unusual for you not to respond, isn't it?
The reason I would tell you not to answer her is #1 - it will pull you into further contact. I don't think you are able to do what AS suggested (which would be fine if things were further along), but you are as addicted to contacting and spying on her---as she is to the A/OM. If you don't agree, then see how tough it is not to reply. #2 - She really isn't checking to see how you are. She's game playing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
