PM. I think these are good steps for your W, and great that you are staying out of her way.
Here's what I wonder. If and when she finally feels independent, or OK on her own, or whatever it is . . . can you two come back together without her losing that? Is letting her call the shots something you can live with forever?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14