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Re: I may have done too much FlyOnTheWall #2426665 01/29/14 03:12 PM
Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 54 T TipAnna Member
TipAnna Member T Joined: Jan 2014 Posts: 54	Hi D2ndday! Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone! We are both in the same situation. I found out a month ago, he still sees the OW, and he still lives at home (most nights). Like you, I struggled and I still am... After countless nights and days, trying to figure out the whys? Make him go or leave? What next? Should I take initiative and call the L, sale the house? ...I was putting endless energy into trying to "do things" as a reaction to him and his decisions. I then realized that I cannot change his mind or control what he does or why. All I can do is make the best decisions for me. I am not talking about the long term... I am living in the moment. So instead of staying home and wondering where he is or when and if he is coming home, I make dinner for myself, take a walk, and go to the library...anything to distract me... In time, these new habits become routine and you find yourself not thinking of the situation as much. This gives your spouse space and allows you to clear YOUR head. You then can start thinking about what do YOU want. I think at the begging, we are all in shock and desperately running around trying to mend our hearts, our lives...take time to heal and find you again...the rest will follow! Me: 36 H: 36 No kids EA/PA confirmed: 02-Jan-2014 Separate bedrooms/still living together

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Subject	Posted By	Posted
I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/21/14 05:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 05:11 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	KarenR	01/22/14 06:32 PM
(NA) Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/22/14 10:15 PM
Re: (NA) Re: I may have done too much	25yearsmlc	01/30/14 02:31 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/24/14 07:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/25/14 05:37 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 04:20 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/29/14 06:52 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	01/29/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:45 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/29/14 05:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/29/14 11:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 12:18 AM
Re: I may have done too much	FlyOnTheWall	01/30/14 01:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	01/30/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 03:58 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/02/14 08:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 04:56 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/03/14 08:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/04/14 05:08 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/05/14 01:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 03:29 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/06/14 09:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/08/14 06:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lifes Twists	02/08/14 03:16 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/16/14 04:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/16/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 11:29 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/18/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/18/14 07:44 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 03:22 AM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/19/14 05:50 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/19/14 06:53 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 04:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/20/14 06:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/20/14 08:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/20/14 11:31 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 04:45 AM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	02/21/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/21/14 05:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/22/14 04:17 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/22/14 06:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/22/14 08:51 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	02/22/14 10:21 PM
Re: I may have done too much	LFC1170	02/23/14 12:09 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:24 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 03:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	trying very hard	02/23/14 01:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/23/14 04:24 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 03:00 AM
Re: I may have done too much	TipAnna	02/24/14 02:25 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/24/14 03:52 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/26/14 04:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/26/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/28/14 03:43 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/01/14 01:41 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/01/14 03:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/01/14 10:14 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lostinpain	03/02/14 01:25 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/02/14 01:48 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/02/14 04:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/05/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/08/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/10/14 02:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	unbidden	03/10/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/10/14 02:43 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/14/14 03:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/14/14 06:11 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/15/14 03:18 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/15/14 03:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/16/14 09:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/17/14 03:58 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/17/14 06:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 02:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Wonka	03/18/14 02:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	sandi2	03/18/14 08:33 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/19/14 03:32 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 12:27 AM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/21/14 01:59 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/21/14 03:10 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	03/21/14 04:55 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	03/22/14 03:47 PM
Re: I may have done too much	ye21	03/22/14 05:04 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:46 PM
Re: I may have done too much	paul19510	03/22/14 07:49 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Duds3	03/22/14 09:03 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/24/14 04:39 PM
Re: I may have done too much	blinded	02/24/14 08:05 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 04:05 AM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:12 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:23 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 03:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/25/14 03:54 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 04:42 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/25/14 05:01 PM
Re: I may have done too much	Lost!	02/26/14 05:01 AM
Re: I may have done too much	zew	02/25/14 04:07 PM
Re: I may have done too much	InLikeFlynn	02/17/14 03:42 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:06 AM
Re: I may have done too much	inafog	01/31/14 04:14 AM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	01/31/14 04:28 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/31/14 07:34 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/01/14 05:13 PM
Re: I may have done too much	AnotherStander	01/29/14 06:41 PM
Re: I may have done too much	knittedscarff	02/03/14 06:06 PM
Re: I may have done too much	D2ndday	02/03/14 07:12 PM

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