CW, MGoBlue and I, as well as other posts had some discussions about the "repeaters" many years ago. You won't find much, if anything on the current forum about the second time around because there aren't very many that return to discuss their situations.
Unfortunately, it's not easier on the LBS or the family if the spouse comes home entirely too soon and hasn't completed his/her journey. Why? Because we think that the crisis is completely over and want life to resume in a normal fashion and we begin to heal and feel safe and secure once again. The second time around, not only can create a different way of acting out, but it also reopens the old wounds and hurts and disrupts the lives of the family members all over again.
How to act this time around? Just be yourself and continue on your own journey. Live your life to the fullest and continue to practice what you learned the first time here. The more you detach, the better. The more you keep the focus on you and your family, the better. Be sure to keep an eye on your accounts and credit cards. Protect yourself in the way of your assets.
If he should want to return home, he will need to prove himself to you, i.e., he is the one that will have to do the hard work of earning your trust once again, transparency will be required in all areas, honesty and yes, he will definitely have to win you back. It's hard work, but if he truly wants his family and you in his life, he will do the hard work.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
