WH, He may be freaking out about the money, but just you wait until he has to deal w/your d when she has a meltdown. You won't be there to save the day for him. He's in for a rude awakening on just how much you did and held the family together.
Once you are settled, you'll find some peace and quiet and your children will grow and thrive. You might just be surprised at how happy the three of you will be. Your home will be the safe haven that your children can't wait to return to after visiting their father.
Hang in there!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
