looks like patience is really going to be a problem for you.
I'm pretty sure MrB said further back, keep it business ONLY? So why would you ask if sending her a WAW video be ok? Wouldn't that be EXACTLY like talking about the marriage? /sarcasim off
If your actions include: looking up more websites WAW videos or stop drinking soda, then you, are still not LISTENING. I can almost hear your wife saying you don't listen with everyone of your responses now.
He asked what you are doing for YOU. less soda, really???
Are you sure you read DR, have you even read the 37 rules? You can lead a horse to water, but you cant make him drink.
I am going to start recovering. I wrote what zctions I am taking. I wrote that I will not drink anymore sodas and I did it great today. Now I have 2 questions:
Do walk away wifes ever contact back or thry are just gone forever?
And one more question: I watched the waw video and at the bottom says to send it to your wife...should I email her this video??
NO do not mail her anything that makes your arguments for you.
And of course SOMETIMES they come back, sometimes they never look back. Almost all of it depends on how the marriage once was (b/c if it was once really good and there was a strong love, it tends to resurface in time. Memories return, feelings clarify as other layers that are on top, evaporate or lose their importance as time passes and anger can dissipate.
The reasons your w had for leaving, may have been resolved, and you might not realize that she is noticing, warming, wondering if your changes are real and or if you are the type to just revert the minute she takes you back. That is her biggest fear. YOUR JOB is to allay it. No jumping at the first sign of civility from her. But no pouting and for sure, no lashing out. That will confirm her fears and do more to keep her from ever returning, than anything else.
Some LBSers convince themselves it's hopeless b/c they they are off the hook! Don't buy that lie. There ARE things you can do to improve Your life> (And who else is supposed to do them?)
Have you read the books that form the basis of this site? Divorce Busting was the first, but Divorce Remedy is the 2nd ed so it might be better.
If you have not read the books it's a little half way to come here and post and post and yet not have read the book.
I ask this b/c you would probably Know the answer to your question if you had read it. Don't skip steps like this. You have to read a book and if reading A BOOK is too much for to actually DO, then admit that, even if only to yourself. And then when the pity party sets in, remind yourself that reading a few books, or ever one, is not a big sacrifice. It's a chance to find ways to improve your m, save the main R of your life, and become a better person. So I urge you to get BACK ON TRACK and do the basics.
Read the BOOK and then the advice here will make more sense and you will do it more successfully, consistently.
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"I am going to start recovering. I wrote what zctions I am taking. I wrote that I will not drink anymore sodas and I did it great today."
That's it? Not drinking soda? Do you think not drinking soda is going to make your W want to go back to you? You're going to have to do harder.
"Do walk away wifes ever contact back or thry are just gone forever?"
Depends on what you do.
"I watched the waw video and at the bottom says to send it to your wife...should I email her this video??"
You can send her the video and she'll never come back. It's up to you.
YOu said that you read DR. It sure doesn't sound like it. There is NO magic bullet or a quick fix for this. YOU are going to have to be patient AND DO THE WORK!
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
When a kid falls first thing he does its look at parents face...if parents dont say nothing and dont react scared the kid doesnt cry and keeps playing...if they react he cries like crazy....
I am that kid....and I felt, its time to take care of myself and not make this the biggest tragedy, she is gone but I still here, I can improve myself, stop smoking, doing one hour of cycling everyday, meditate 20 mins, eat healthier, stop drinking sodas, go to theraphy once a week, be positive at my job.... all those are variables that I can control, anything else...its out of my control.
So with that in mind I will change to keep the changes for me, not for anybody else.
I am starting a new thread where all I will use this situation to relate my reborn, where I will create my new me, stronger, healthier, and happier, because all I had done untill today hasnt improve nothing so I am choosing a new approach....focussing in Mens sana in Corpore sano...
Thank you guys for the suggestions
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
you guys are welcome to follow my journey I can fall many times in the forest...I am lonely and nobody will help me, I can ask for help and not receive it...at the end its me and only me the one who can get back in my feet...
When the student its ready, the teacher will appear... Even after all this time the sun never says to the Earth, "You owe me." Look what happens with a love like that,It lights the whole sky.
