I am working on plugging my financials into my planners software. It makes projections to help us understand ramifications of various decisions. Then i will respond to h's settlement proposal with a counter offer, mediation if necessary. Those are the short term needs as i see it. I need to get the kids the support theyre supposed to be getting, and i need to know where i stand financially.

I figure once the settlement is done he will file for d. If he doesnt want to then i probably will. I'm just taking it one step at a time and will see how i feel when we get to that point.

I would like to have this behind me but have little free time to work on it and some degree of anxiety about the money.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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