still hopeful... no matter where life takes me

[bluesgal]

Julie-This is where I really feel for you. I can totally relate to the anger and insults, but I have a lot of friends/family close to me so I can take all the legitimate possibilities and have back up plans for kids.

I don't even have to run these things by H, therefore no need for him to condemn my responsibility as controlling.

Of course, I admit to a past of overthinking, micromanaging, etc. These traits haven't been present in months. Only H doesn't want to see that. He wants to see the 'bad' person that justifies his choices. (Cue family feud strike noise) Not happening.

I guess your choices are a) leave H out of planning b/c his mind is so gone right now that he can't have a grownup conversation or b) tolerate his comments and let them roll off your back (easier said than done) But even with plan b, it seems that there is never a solution.

You are a great person, Julie. I can see your growth and your patience and commitment to your family and M. I think it's awesome.