Dude. Get back to the exercise asap. The cleaning and such? That seems within the realm of normalcy for this type of thing. I've seen similar as have many on this board.
Fight (because I'm angry and you're close). Accuse (because it can't be me; I'd be crazy if it was) Blame (anyone but me). Now relax (cause I feel relieved of the pressure and I feel heard).
My daughter picked up on that cycle early on. My ex wasn't sleeping, had back acne and other stress related ailments. She was living upstairs in the spare bedroom. I gravitated toward engaging in the fights and new even then that it was a pressure release for her. My daughter noticed it to. She told me once, "daddy, you need to pick a fight with mom so she'll release some of that pressure again. She's acting funny." I had to tell her no. Her mom would have to figure it out for herself. I wasn't going to be her punching bag any longer.
That was a few months after BD. But much of what you described is exactly what I saw in that period of time. Many of those on these boards that are able to retain their marriages, were able to wait that out. Eventually their spouses would tell them that they weren't angry at them. It was something else they were struggling with. My spouse left before that, but it's not uncommon to hear around here or in the alt.
While you're exercising, remember this question:
Quote:
As for the last line "is she?"......Are you what she said? Think about that one.
That's a great way to frame the questions as she throws them at you.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
