I think around here in general, there seems to be a rush to get to feeling ok with things, and I want to be understood at angry or sad before I'm ready to feel accepting.
I've noticed that people telling me things I wasn't ready to hear that minute still helped me, but later.
My intent, AD, was really just that. To get a feel for your thought process and how you are dealing with the anger.
I get it. I live in the same world. And no, there is no magic pill that makes the anger go away. Heck, I get angry at my ex from time to time as well. Like you, I deal with it and move along. It hasn't always been that way, but it has been that way for a long time now. I'm grateful for that.
My other intent was to see if there was another side to the viewpoint. I'm much more interested in if you're processing the anger and feelings, and I believe that you are. But be careful to also gauge the impact of your feelings on your kids. Your view of your ex is one thing but how he behaves toward your kids and what the feelings are behind that can be different. Your posts made it look like you were coloring that view with your emotions. It's human to do that, but I would imagine that's not always what you want to be about.
And you're right, the boards tend to skew because they show feelings at that point in time geared toward the audience. This is a safe place to vent those feelings, and it would make sense to vent them here. It's part of how it works, right?
You're also right. You may not be fine. Chances are good you'll use the risk of not being fine as a way to propel you forward to the next great step. That starts with you believing it, but the risks are certainly there. The risks won't stop you, they'll help motivate you. That's not a bad spot to be in for this life in my experience.
Peace, AJ
"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK Put the glass down... "Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
