Newbie needs help:husband left Saturday

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Oh, and now I am getting even more freaked out as I sit here and ruminate. I had gotten so concerned about the finances that there are issues of custody that I did not go into enough: since he moved out, the kids have been staying with him 2 nights per week. But the lawyer mentioned that it is common these days for spouses to split custody, each 3 or 4 days per week and every other weekend. I desperately do not want this and we had strayed into talking about whether to file something to impel the other woman to leave, but I mentioned I thought that would only hurt things at this point, since they have already been staying with her, they seem to like her and her kids and my husband has gotten angry on the occasions when I tried to talk to him about not having her stay with my kids. I am afraid it will limit my ability to co-parent with him, make him angry and think I am limiting their access to him - the kids really love him. And the arrangement of them staying with me 5 nights a week and him 2 is working out well for us both and I don't want to put that arrangement in jeopardy.