Not sure how I can turn that into an Alpha behavior.
You can't turn beta into alpha, they're two distinctly different categories. Read the Married Man Sex Life Primer, it doesn't dovetail much with DB'ing and some consider it sexist, but it's by far the best thing I've seen written on the difference between alpha and beta behavior and offers great tips on what any of us can do to improve our alpha.
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When I proposed this last Summer she felt I was throwing it in her face because she said we would have to sell the house and leave everything that we did that she wanted done years ago for someone else to enjoy.
Yeah, that's the "too little, too late" WAS attitude that I mentioned before.
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I am doing basically all the same things we used to do together but I am doing them by myself. Its stinks but it is things I enjoy so that helps.
That's good, just keep it up, you'll start enjoying these things again. I remember how tough it was to GAL, I actually dreaded leaving the house. I was afraid to. I had to FORCE myself. Eventually I learned to tolerate it, then enjoy it. It takes a while, but the key is to keep doing it.
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I know the "too little too late" deal but you have to start somewhere correct?
Absolutely, I was just making the point that you should do these things as much for you as for her, because she'll find ways to turn every positive into a negative.
