Bets, sorry to hear that you had a fender bender. It happens to the best of us. I say break it down,deal with it bit by bit and you will be able to deal withit better. I am hear if you want to vent or just chit chat. Remember I am programmed in to you phone already! Lol
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Barb, glad you will still get to head off to Florida. Hopefully the dr will get everything during surgery and you will be good as new. . Honestly, probably better to be recouping when you can't do much outside anyway. I will be keeping you in my thoughts that everything turns out well.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Barb - glad things are looking up for you and honestly you go to the best places in the winter time - Hawaii and now Florida! :-)
Bets - Accidents are a pain the you know what, but glad it was just metal that was damaged which is easily fixed and you and all involved are ok which is the most important thing.
Gineen - I'm with you on the cold, ready for spring already and it isn't even February yet! My poor daughter who lives in La Crosse, Wisconsin woke up to air temperatures of 20 below zero this morning with wind chill temps near -50! Now THAT is insane weather. My sister who lives in Pensacola, Florida (yes Florida) is under a Winter Storm Warning with 1 to 3 inches of snow. So much for global warming...
As for me, January isn't even over yet and I'm ready for a 2014 do over!
Thanks for your concern, everyone. It wasn't serious, but it's not lost on me that I need to put on my oxygen mask and help myself right now. I'm treading some murky waters and realize I need to sloooowww down and pay attention to my own world and back away from other stuff that I allow to distract me.
This stupid accident serves as a very real and metaphoric stop sign for what is going on personally. If I had more clear signs from up above, they would smack me in the face.
On the superficial side, my phones and internet here at work were restored 20 minutes ago, but have been down since 11 am Friday. It's the 2nd time since November that I've had an outage of 3+ days. It is an absolute *killer* to a self employed business. So yesterday around the same time (just before it really started snowing), I found out from my CLEC that the problem was on Century Link's side (our baby bell) and not likely to be fixed before the end of business. I was pissed and decided to close up shop and head home to internet service there. I literally backed my SUV up without looking in the rear mirror, accelerating hard and completely nailed a poor woman in a rental car. She was gracious about it.
I went home, and after BA texted me, I shut off my phone and downloaded a new book on my kindle and just relaxed. I woke up this morning with some clear thoughts. And although I didn't have phones or internet here at work again until recently, I started thinking about what's going on under the surface.
I know I've told you about my former boss - I inherited the company from him back in 2008 when he walked away to deal with his liver disease. I'm the daughter he never had, and he's my D19's godfather. We're still close. I'm also his executor, legal and medical POA. Back in 2008, he was given 3-5 years to live. I swear he's got more than 9 lives, having come close to the end several times since then. The liver disease turned to cancer 2 years ago, and while it metastasized to the lung and esophagus 2 years ago, they've been able to deal with the miniscule tumors and he's been comfortable. On Friday, they confirmed that there is a large tumor in the lung and it has metastasized to the lymph system. He meets with the oncologist on Friday. He doesn't feel so well now and gets tired just making the bed.
So there are 3 of us in his true inner circle - 2 cops and me (both of whom I adore). One of the cops took him to the CT scan on Thursday. The other cop and I went to dinner with him on Friday.
It's REALLY hard watching someone you love die. He's anxious, and so are we. Because he's cheated death so many times, we joke that he's got the lives of 2 cats. But sadly, I think this is the end. And so does he. He's the eternal optimist and always plays the hope card. But... having been a hospice volunteer for more than 10 years, I know the fate of cancer when it comes to this point, and I know what's in store. While I stand to personally gain from his final departure, it makes me feel guilty and sad and I sometimes don't know what to do with that.
Anyway, it's just a big reminder to me that I need to slow down and pay attention to how *I* feel and not to pretend that it's not bothering me. Because it is.
So there you have it. I thought Mr. Wonderful was going to give me sh!t, but it turns out he didn't. He first asked me if I was okay (as well as the lady I hit) and then said, "Your fault this time, huh? Well at least you did a lot of damage. If you're going to cause an accident, at least make it worthwhile." He said this kindly and commented on his way out my door (he was picking up D16's weekly meds), "Get some rest. You've had a lot on your mind lately."
True that.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Hey Bets - very sorry to hear about your former boss's diagnosis. With your hospice background I know that you have been and will continue to be great source of comfort to him.
I'm glad that Mr. Wonderful didn't give you a hard time about the accident last night. It's nice to have unexpected compassion instead of criticism in times like this.
Sorry about your accident! Glad you are ok, and the other driver. I can imagine doing the same kind of thing if the internet was out for days and I was anxious about getting work done.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
Sounds like you've had way too much going on. It is usually when we are at our most frustrated & stressed that these things happen(I got 2 speeding tickets when I learned of Ex's affair). I'm just glad you are ok & ex didn't add to your misery.
Cancer is a horrible thing. It's so hard to watch the battle when there is nothing you can do but being there for him helps. More than you probably know. I was a good friends chemo buddy. She has had cancer twice. Won the battle both times. Have another survivor friend who has also beat it twice. My Mom beat the first one but not the second. I hope some day there are cures found for all cancers. & I hope it is in our lifetime.
Aww Betsey, what a crappy few days. Glad things are better on the tech side, but so sorry to hear about your friend. That's got to be hard. I hope you have found the time to slow down and take care of yourself for a bit.
By the way, I didn't know you used to be in hospice care. You have my sincere admiration for doing such a difficult, but incredibly important job.
Hang in there. ((Betsey))
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
. Honestly, probably better to be recouping when you can't do much outside anyway. I will be keeping you in my thoughts that everything turns out well.