Magic, We all can't be wrong if Ken is coming here and advising you of the same thing, i.e., your SO is hoping to placate you and claiming confusion, i.e., he's wanting to ensure that his assets and finances remain the way they are. The longer he can string you along, and tell you what you want to hear, the better.
As for dating and fooling around, didn't Bill Clinton say he didn't have sex with Monica? Well, I hate to say this, but it's the script being spoken once again and many of us have heard it.
Ken, Mr. Bond and all of the other posters have given you the same advice about the business and getting yourself set up financially and secure. It's time to do that and hopefully it can be completed within the next couple of weeks. After that, you seriously need to consider finding a new position. It's not going to be very healthy for you to continue working with/for him and yet, trying to maintain some distance and live your life as well as moving forward.
I do hope that you will truly listen to what Ken and others have told you. Seriously, you need to focus on you and what you need to do in the next few weeks. Write up your questions/concerns for mediation and be prepared to ask them in the meeting.
As long as your SO thinks he can string you along, the happier he's going to be about it because it suits his needs and continues to pad his wallet w/o him having to do anything to ensure that you are set up and recognized legally as a partner.
Listen to what the posters have told you. No one has given you bum advice. Had you been seeing a counselor, you would have been paying big bucks for the advice you received here.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
