About her character, would you say she is an honest person? A hard working person? A considerate person? Was she a good parent (whatever that means)? Did she have strength of character? Is her unwillingness to cooperate about the kids just a view of who she really is.
During out Sep, I needed some boundaries with H, simple things like, let me know if you are coming to my house to take things out of the garage, please don't have our sons be delivery boys for you by bringing your stuff to you, let me know when you are coming to the house, don't just drop in. He agreed to them. If he hadn't, that would have told me a lot.
There is no way you can get her to do what she is unwilling or unable to do. Did she ignore your boundaries/needs during the M?
Hi Bug, the last question you ask, I would have to say Yes to. Often when I spoke to W about things we could not afford to do, she'd go out and buy them anyway. She'd tell me she was going to "look at something" but then she'd buy it without us talking. She did that with a Horse. She just wrote a check from a CC b/c we didn't have enough money in the checking account to cover it. then she lied and told me she was just keeping the horse to review and hadn't bought it. Not a small price BTW.
our M had been a bit of a power struggle, as I see it now. I'm not willing to do that anymore.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
