Well first, I think you've been doing all the right things. You made it clear to him that you had a boundary- you will not consider reconciling until OW is out of the picture. That is an excellent boundary to have. I agree with Miss that he is not serious about getting back together as long as he refuses to drop OW and refuses to care for your D.
Originally Posted By: DrAnnie
Thanks for the advice about legal info; I spoke with two lawyers, an accountant and a financial planner...a bit over board
I don't think it's overboard at all, just prudent planning!
Quote:
He is not helping financially because he only makes enough to cover his living expenses?!
Are you in the US? If so, does your state have a legal S agreement? I'm in TX and TX does not recognize S, but other states do. If so then I would suggest drawing up an S agreement right away because if he chooses not to support your D then he should be MADE to support her because it IS his responsibility.
Quote:
he said he feels like a failure as a man and then when I ask what are you going to do...he said...I don't know
It is not uncommon for WAS's to feel this way (even more common among MLCers). Unfortunately it is not an indication that he is about to turn the corner and come back, his journey could still be many months or even years. Just stick to your boundaries.
