FY, Yep, you are antsy. I would start with #2 for a while and see how that goes.
Number 1 is kind of a touchy subject and I don't think she's actually ready for a marriage discussion just yet...but you could ask her if there is anything that you could do better and just leave the word "marriage" out of it for now. If you are going to have this particular conversation, do it when you both are relaxed and enjoying an evening at home w/o any distractions.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
