I definitely did NOT detach after he first let me know about this (which was immediately following his first "date"). I did the opposite...If he was watching something on the television, I did, too. He actually commented that this was a good change, because he used to watch television by himself while I would be on my computer in the kitchen. This seems like a piecing step, but is it too early for this? I don't want to step BACKWARDS....I want to be moving forwards.
That said - I suspect he's left for this trip prepared for action. He sent me a lovely email yesterday saying that I would never have to worry or guess about his feelings again, that he would keep me in the loop...but then he was pretty absent himself last night. I suspect that in the morning they had not exchanged excited messages about his trip, but that changed throughout the day.
So yes...it's clear I need to detach. (sigh)
What exactly does that mean? If he texts me on this trip, do I answer, or do I just say nothing until he gets home???? I know I have to be pleasant and polite and not angry...
I'd better get a copy of the book.
Me 43 H 43 Married 18 years Together 21 years Two kids, 15 and 13 BD 11/14/13 (but not asking for divorce - just informing me of OW)
