So I've been reading SSM, and would like to start making some moves, because well, I'm antsy.
W and I live together, get along well, and there's no OM. I have to believe she doesn't want to lose me. But applying too much pressure could change that I suppose. I'm still at a point where that matters, because even with the near lack of physical touch, the rest of the M is working for me... for now anyways. I don't want to bomb that.
I'm also pretty sure she is still in crises. Last week she told me (again) that she envies dead people, because they have no worries.
Should I wait for her to work through her crises issues, (at least one is due to ME) or are there things I can do or say now that may help?
I'm thinking about:
1. Asking how the M is working for her, and if there is anything I can do better. Which would then lead into what I would like her to do better for me.
2. Initiating more touch. Nothing big, just touch her shoulder or arm, hold her hand, or tie her to the bed kinda stuff.
Thoughts?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
