Reaching out for support and advice 2

[melissag]

Blues . . . it is not easy! We went on a 5-day family vacation (with friends who didn't know) a week after BD. While on one hand, it was nice to have family time (even though it was BS, I kind of pretended to myself it wasn't), it was also very difficult to pretend like my world wasn't falling apart. There were a few times that I had to excuse myself to the restroom to go cry for 3 minutes (or as long as I reasonably could without having to say I had explosive diarrhea) and then get myself together again.

If I were you, honestly, I would still be holding on to hope. Your H is saying he is done, but lots of WASs say that at some point. If he does nothing about it, then yes, you are in limbo, which s.u.c.ks, but less so than moving forward with D, IMO.

I think the fact that your H is still doing things with you and friends, and having family time, could be a good sign. It could also mean nothing, as it did for me in the six weeks that H was still living with us after BD. But who knows.

Hang in there.