Hi Mustard seed, I haven't been on the forums much...the last time I was in your thread I saw you talking about the booked "How to fix your marriage w/o talking about it" (I think that's the title)....I just got it in the mail a few days ago. I am no longer reading for the sake of my marriage, just to continue learning for furture growth.
I am so happy to see things seem to be turning around in your sitch....faith the size of a mustard see huh?
From other piecing threads I saw that falling into old habits is hard and one of the keys was, even though you are piecing, continue to not look to your spouse for your happiness... but continue to do your GAL activities and 180s etc... that make you happy and make you, you. And even invite your spouse to join in, but it he can't, keep your plans.
I don't think I saw anything, forgive me if I am wrong, but will C be an option in the future or going to something like Retrouvaille? I understand he wants things to reconnect slowly (which is good, because piecing can take years, so low expectation to start is great); but since he has decided D is not an option anymore... at some point he's going to have to start doing the work to repair the damage as well. Do you have a plan for that when the time comes?
I imagine knowing he doesn't want D, but still being the only one "changing" and keeping things positive has to be difficult at times. So I was just wondering.
Again, it's awesome that things are starting to come together for you. I will your marriage all the best.
me: 30 H:30 tgthr:7 m:4 no kids 5 counseling sessions initiated by H as a LR: Oct 2012 long distance marriage b/c of work since Nov 2012 official BD: July 2013 nothing filed 1/1/14 I dropped the rope
