How does everyone feel about tapping into their spouses email and such? You can certainly get at least the 'truth' that way, but do you compromise yourself in the process?

The 'need to know wtf is going on' is strong, but i have done the spying thing in the past and it gnaws at my soul/becomes obsessive....


me 41 w43
married 20 years
BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY....
4 kids, 21,18,8,6