Everyone gets to their own place at their own time. You will know when you are ready it really, truly is an unmistakable feeling.
So take all the advice, do what you have to do and let go when you are ready. Only you will know when.
GAL, 180, etc is to prepare you for the day that you let go, with love, and allow W to be the person she needs to be. With or without you.
Until that time, unfortunately, you will be doing the world wide exclusive tour of all the most terrifying roller coasters. Been there, got the tickets
It's okay to say I'm not ready. It's okay to say I am scared and don't know what my life will look like. It's okay to want Plan A.
The thing you forget is we have all stood, emotionally where you are and have nothing but empathy for you. We are also far removed and maybe see some things you don't.
I finally defined a boundary to H, he freaked out. End result is it made him look at what he wanted and how he needed to go forward, but I was fine if it was without me because that isn't my journey. is it?
I know what you are moving towards and so do you. As I said, this is your timeline.
