Welcome MamaB. I'm sorry you find yourself here, but it truly is a great place for support given your sitch.
Have you read DB/DR yet? Start there...it will help you start to process some things and give you some ideas on what you should and shouldn't be doing.
This is an extremely tough time, and while your immediate reaction is to "fix it," there's no quick fix. It's going to take a lot of time, so try to remain calm, breath, and start GAL.
What are the things your H has complained about in the past? What are the things you don't like about the role you've played in the M?
Originally Posted By: MamaB
I also wish that i could change so many things that has led up to today in our marriage.
Like what?
Originally Posted By: MamaB
My H called to talk to kids but I said no, not to punish him, but because I would have really lost it to hear them ask him when he is coming home. I will never do this again, I just needed to keep myself together.
I am glad you realize this was wrong. The last thing you want to do is get between your H's and children's relationship.
Originally Posted By: MamaB
H wants to still leave oldest here and have the rest of us move to the new city, but divorce and live in two homes.
What do you think is best for you? You need to start thinking in these terms.
