You were right to see a lawyer. You need to know your rights and take steps to protect yourself and your children.
That last post tells me that you are operating from a place of fear. I once visited that place and had a rather long stay there. Fear of pushing your W further away if you tell her you visited a lawyer. Fear leads to regret.
She might get upset. So what? Not your problem. She will get over it and in time, she will understand why you did it. You might gain some respect from her for standing up for yourself.
It is ultimately your responsibility to make decisions in the best interest of yourself and your children. She isn't doing it and you can't rely on her to do it anytime soon.
As for her communication and staying at your place while you are gone, only time will tell if it is a positive. It could be a positive that she feels comfortable to communicate with you. It could be a negative that she is taking advantage. I'd say not to read too much into it. Believe none of what you hear and only half of what you see.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
