First off, things seem to be moving at a heightened pace lately. I'm not sure why that is, but it just feels like it.
Second, thanks to PositiveSpin for the advice in this post. I didn't thank you in my last thread, but that is GREAT advice. It should be obvious because it makes so much sense, but it's a reminder to be intentional with the kids who are going through this.
Thirdly, XW doesn't seem to want to respect the boundaries we agreed on...the only one she seems to care for is having a weekend with the ladies at my place, probably so she can decompress (totally understandable - I can't imagine how tough/hectic her day-to-day life is). As I pointed out near the end of my last thread, she full frontal assaulted me Saturday, which I had to turn down (still feeling that one ).
We spoke for a while yesterday at her house, which again throws me off because one of the boundaries SHE wanted was less me in her house so she could really feel like that was HER space. I brought that up, and the fact that this past weekend was HER weekend with the kids, but I spent a good amount of time there. She kept saying she wanted me there.
Anyway, so we talked for a while yesterday, and then texted for a while last night after I left. And we're texting again today about some serious things.
Really, where she is is a place where she wants to be independent, but she just misses me (her words). I've been validating a lot - just asking her what certain things that she says mean and asking her how she feels about certain things she mentions.
She has brought this up before, but she even suggested moving back to the MidWest, where we're both from (hence the thread title). She's tired of the city we're in now, all the bad memories it reminds her of, and the fact we don't have family near.
I'll post more specifics later (there's some important dialogue that transpired), I just wanted to get a new thread started. Thanks for reading.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
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