separted six weeks still on the journey - II

[labug]

I'm glad she's going to spend more time with her kids.

I was going to post to you a couple of days ago, about your D having to contact you for a ride when Mom bailed.

I don't know why your W couldn't do it, it was probably a good reason.

If you had an agreement with, let's say, the parent of one of your D's friends to share driving the girls to work and the other parent couldn't do it, would you expect the parent to call and make the arrangement?

I would. Your D shouldn't be in the middle of this, she didn't make the arrangements. This is a boundary I would address with W. I know you can't control her actions but you can let her know your needs. "W, if you're unable to take D to school, please call me to make other arrangements. This is our
responsibility, not D's."

bug I agree with you and have set and rest this boundary more than once I the past 6 weeks. She's. Not respecting it.

How did you phrase it to her? Not that I think you did it "wrong", it would help my understanding.

So what do you think about the fact that she ignores that especially since her D is involved?

How would you describe your W's character?