It will get better but you're in for lots of ups and downs. Just to prepare you.

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H wants to still leave oldest here and have the rest of us move to the new city, but divorce and live in two homes. I don't want to leave my child to go through this by herself, and they have stability here.


You don't have to do anything right now, including worry about that.^^^ Your H is figuring out everyone's role in his fantasy. Let him just enjoy that for now.

Don't agree to anything, don't disagree. Just listen.

Read the books, start a journal, take a yoga class. Make a list of 5 goals, GAL.

One of your goals ;), make a sig with the bones of your sitch, ages, years married, kid's ages, etc. It helps us stay on track. Click on My Stuff (above) then Edit Profile.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss