25years-I did get some similar advice as to what you were saying, about asking her about her feelings/listening/validating.
I gave it a try a few days later. It didn't work that time but i can definately see how it is less confrontational and will go that route again, if the opportunity presents itself.
me 41 w43 married 20 years BD 10/10/13 ILYBNILWY.... 4 kids, 21,18,8,6
