Settling in for the long road ahead

[Liberty3]

H called round this afternoon. We were talking about business and then he brings up our R. He is fed up with work, government, feels he has worked all these years and will have nothing to show for it, etc but he thinks our relationship is a separate issue.

He says he feels hurt and injured from the way I have treated him for all these years (eg, most of our marriage) and is now 'sitting on the fence' because he can't decide what to do. He maintains its better to sit there until he does know what he wants to do. He is waiting for 'the lightbulb moment'.

I honestly don't think that our whole marriage has been bad. I do admit that for a couple of years I have been pushing him away, and I have tried hard to work on that issue (and many others) and the reasons why. He admits I have changed.

I asked him if he would rather I just disappeared from the picture, not to give him hugs or speak to him but he has said that is ok to do. I asked him about s3x and he said that if a 'good looking bird was going to get their gear off and jump into bed with him, he won't say no', but he wasn't going to initiate any hugs or s3x because he doesn't want to give me false hope.

I had thought that he was going through a midlife crisis but now I just don't know what's going on. He doesn't want to sell the house or business, doesn't know if he wants a divorce, doesn't know if he wants me, he just doesn't know!!!!!! And nor do I!

Some insight would be appreciated.