Hi MamaB. I am sooooo sorry you are here. Many of us can empathize with what you are going through. We know how hard it is. Please know, it does get better.

Spend some time reading through some threads. There are a lot of great folks here all going through similar circumstances. Some have successfully reconciled with their spouses, some are moving forward with their own lives while their M status is uncertain; and some have lived through divorce. Most of us who have been here even a few months have grown a LOT, and we have all survived. You will too.

What were your H's complaints about the M?

Is your H having an affair? You didn't say that, but is there any chance he is?

Mama, don't make any big decisions right now. Give yourself a bit of time to recover emotionally. Take care of yourself. See a lawyer so you can find out what your rights are. But don't DO anything with respect to your M right now.

You will get a ton more advice here, I know.

If you are still on moderation, keep posting and you will be off before you know it!

Hang in there.


me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14