I read your 37 item list a few days ago. I which I was doing everything wrong -- puppy dog, asking what is wrong, etc. I have stopped asking and let ask her first. ATTENTION: Everybody needs to read the "37".
She was staying out 7 days a week out to 2am, 3am 4 am+ going to dancing clubs. Once I called the police at 5:30 no phone response, no text response- they started a missing persons report and a BOLO for her car. She has always blamed me that she can't meet friends on her own. Buying dresses everyday. Acting nasty to me. Does not clean up but only for herself. I allowed the late nights because she met fellow female teachers she like as friends. I tolerated this for over a year alone every night. I used to go dancing before the crazy behaviour; however I only wanted to stay to 11:30 ( got there a 7:30 for lesson) also the music got very loud and hurt my ears. I would dance a few slow dances however she is a super dancer so I would read some technical paper inbetween the slow dances. I am a pilot but not a commerical pilot and I need to preserve my hearing, so I wanted to go after the bands start playing very loud music. One Friday she wanted to stay later than I wanted to so she went alone and met up with her girlfriends. Well that was the beginning and I was such a schmuck as I did not say anything for over a year because she had some friends.
Well about a month ago I was fed up and asked what was going on and I got the 10 word "I love you..... Not in love with you" she want to move out and get a divorce. I asked to go to counseling and she said she asked me to go and I said no ( this never happened) she said she asked me many times. I asked what was the reason to go to counseling and she will not say. If she supposedly told me so many before why do I not remember any of them and she can't tell me?
Everything I have read she fills all of the boxes as female mid life crisis. She is their poster child.
She has actually not gone out every night and I have a device I just patented and had a conference that investors were at on Sat. A few day prior she wanted to go and I said ok well Firday night she rolls in 3:30am wakes me up. I got up at 6:00 AM, she wakes up at 7:45 and comes down to take some vitamins and I said nothing and maybe looked dissapointed ( I think she knew I was leaving at 8:30 with or without her) I never saw her get ready so quickly and she as ready at 8:20
We got down there and she took notes for a solid hours. She has no finanical gain from and our prenup states. So what's up? I do not not know to do? FYI a day after I did not ask her MLK day say was doing some editing on another patent and I would leave and go to the garage or out to the front yard and she would puppy dog me.
We sleep in the same bed but there is the (her) berlin wall between us.
Last night she even spoke to me in bed and was nice.
I do not want to takeover this thread however; you could assist both of us. How do I now when she wants to start being a couple.
I am not normally the person the "37" say you need to be. I appear to moving on. (it is my house in my name) and she knows she could be working for another 30 years as a teacher ( what she hates) and paying all utilites, etc that I have done for 20 years ( her money she makes is only for her). I could walk away with 7 or 8 digits on this one. My blubbering fool to ask her to stay is gone and the confidence she sees what I am when doing business sadly I am now using on her. Sandi I really hate this; however she has gone to female hormone zombiland.
