Quick update on my M, talked to the W on Saturday, had to call her since my stepson called me because he got pulled over on the snowmobile; driving with no trail stickers. So I called her the conversation was good except for one thing I think W was trying to test me or answer some questions for herself. While we were talking she had to close the garage door, didn't think she pulled the car in far enough and thought garage door was going to close on the car, it didn't. W then asked 'what if it had closed on the car, would you of yelled at me?' I said no it 'would of been an accident.' This I feel was her way of testing me on what my re-action would be, since I used to yell about things before thinking it through. This to me now is just the 'small things' and they can usually be fixed pretty easy.
After re-reading the MLC's part that was giving to me as homework I still feel that this is what W is going through, to much of the examples fit her actions for this not to be true. Or it could also be that W has always had a hidden love for old high school boyfriend; that's who the OM is because she keeps comparing relationships from high school to present time to the relationship she had in high school with OM.
I'm keeping hope that this will just blow over in time and we can start working on our M again because I'm still in love with my W but I don't trust her based on what I've found out & what's happened. In the mean time I'm working on my stuff and myself because I have to take care of myself first and foremost.
