That third quote threw my for a loop. I honestly don't know what you're talking about there. I dont recall wanting h's friends to talk sense to him, nor do i recall my sister wanting me to talk sense into her daughter. I don't see what analogy you were trying to draw.
The other point, that one show emotion because one cares...in the concussion story the emotion h showed was about getting his money back. If he is yelling at s15 to tell him the name so he can go after them for money, you and i are just going to disagree that that shows h caring about his son.
His son is not reading it that way. If i said son, just realize that your father is only yelling and berating you because he really loves you, i would look like a crazy person.
My h is verbally abusive. He treats us like possessions. My ic considers him a sociopath. I'm not going to imagine love where it is clearly not. I'm very sorry for my son that his dad is emotionally limited. My son will very likely grow up with some issues because he doesn't feel loved by his dad but rather abandoned. That makes me feel mad.
I do think there's some truth that h cares, in some way, about his kids. But this concussion example is not an illustration of it, quite the opposite.
I think coming over with dinner and stuff is how he shows he cares.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
