I can totally relate to that. Try reading men are from mars... It states that there will be role reversals. It's up to you to figure out those reversals. My ex said the same exact things the first time she left. I think it's all part of the fog they're in. Couple that with any personality disorders/resentment/anger and it can get extremely confusing.

Just letting you know that you aren't alone during these confusing times.

Me-35 Com law-28
S-3
T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu
1st bu- 2/2012
Rec-4/2013
2nd bu-10/2013
IC-2 yrs(anger issues)
MC- 5 mnths-fail
OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14
New OM ~10/4/14